Dear Avery,
I’m really hoping the reality show “The Bachelor/The Bachelorette” is still around when you are old enough to watch. I’m kidding… well… OK, kind of. It’s an awfully cheesy yet fabulously addicting 2 hour television event (yes, I’m sure you’ve established by now that your Aunt Megs watches a lot of TV).
Any who, in this last season, the Bachelorette named Des, was torn between a guy that was at her level of maturity, and man that was a level “up”. I was rooting for the level up guy, Chris, the entire time because he was too good for her. In the nicest way possible. He is intelligent, witty, handsome but wasn’t a standout, a little quiet, reserved and well…mature. The other guy was just…someone you’d want to date because he is fun and sweet, but real depth? Not really.
Lots of girls run into this problem… wanting to be with the fun guy, the hot guy, the bad boy, the play hard to get, etc. While that is totally acceptable, in high school and college, marriage is another story. Let me tell you kid, those things only get them so far. This point goes for men as well!! << I don’t discriminate. 🙂
Key point here: Marry up.
Marry someone who is smarter than you. Marry someone who is funnier than you. Marry someone who will challenge you. Marry someone who won’t always give in. Marry someone who will teach you things and show you new things. Marry someone who doesn’t get overly jealous. Marry someone who can handle your PMS and stress (<< some boys can’t do this). Oh, and marry someone who will watch the Bachelorette with you (against his better judgement) even if he would rather be doing anything else.
In the end, Des chose to marry up. Someone who will make marriage worth it. (Let’s hope anyway!)
Here’s to marrying up, kid. And to finding a mate that will make you a better you.
With love,
Aunt Megs
With Love, Aunt Megs 